Saying of very famous people about choice. The Importance of Choice: You choose how your life will be. There is always a choice

03.03.2020

From early childhood, a person is taught to tell the truth. Do not lie - this is one of the rules of morality. But the truth is not always liked by a person, and in certain cases it can lead to tragedy, become life-threatening.

So what is still better: the bitter truth or the sweet lie?

It is very difficult to answer this question unambiguously. Of course, the answer suggests itself that the truth is better, whatever they may be. The ability to speak the truth, not to lie, not to change one's moral principles - this is characteristic only of a strong person, morally pure. After all, not everyone likes the truth. Especially if a person's opinion is contrary to generally accepted views, foundations.

How many examples history knows when people sacrificed their lives, but did not betray their views. It is worth recalling the famous D. Bruno, who died at the stake for asserting that the earth is round, who dared to express a theory that runs counter to the canons of the church. From time immemorial, people went to the block for their ideas, for the truth.

And yet one must speak the truth. To live according to conscience is difficult, but also easy at the same time. No need to dodge, invent non-existent, adapt to the opinion of the interlocutor. A truthful person lives with a clear conscience, does not fall into the net of his own lies. It is the truthful people who move history, they are the initiators of the greatest deeds, this is the color of any country, any people. It is no coincidence that truthfulness, according to psychologists, is in one of the first places among the positive qualities that people distinguish.

But what about lies?

After all, she is so sweet, pleasant, lulling. It may seem strange, but lies also have the right to exist in our world. It is simply necessary for people who are weak, selfish, not self-confident. They live in an illusory world of deceit.

Yes, the insight will be terrible, the truth will still come out, it is invincible, but for now, such people think, let everything remain the same. It's so nice when a person is praised, admired, admired. Sometimes these people do not even understand where the line between truth and lies is. This is the real human problem. It is good if there is still someone nearby who will open his eyes, show the truth, no matter how difficult they may be. And let it happen as soon as possible.

However, sometimes a lie is simply necessary for a person. How to say that he is hopelessly ill, that he has only a little bit left to live? A person is characterized by the belief that he will still live, sometimes this faith does real miracles - in fact, it prolongs a person's life. And this, albeit a few, but still days, months, and sometimes even years, when a person lives next to loved ones who love him.

The choice between truth and lies is made by each person himself. This choice ultimately shows what it is.

There is no such person who at least once did not face a choice: to lie, saving himself, his friend, or to tell the truth, on the one hand to the detriment of himself, on the other hand, making his own life easier. Everyone has heard the phrase "a bitter truth is better than a sweet lie" more than once. And if you think about it, you can understand that this statement is true.

Because no matter how hard we try, most of the time the lies are eventually exposed. After all, when creating a legend, you need to take into account many details for its plausibility, which is quite difficult. Any, the most insignificant trifle can give out deceit. Moreover, coming up with a truly believable story is much more difficult than it might seem at first glance.

Even if no one ever finds out the truth, lying brings anxiety and fear that the lie will be exposed. This is called remorse. Some conscience will torment all their lives, others only a couple of days. It all depends on the significance and size of the lie. But this fear of the unknown, which conscience throws you "under the pillow" can get even in a dream. A certain paranoia appears, which in most cases ends in a few minutes of shame and a burning sense of shame. It's hardly worth the moments of relief you get when your lies aren't told right away.

Also, every action causes a reaction. More precisely, what a crime, such a punishment. If the lie is revealed, then the liar will be punished. Perhaps not in the way that mom usually punishes in childhood, putting you in a corner, or somehow financially, for example, depriving you of the opportunity to eat ice cream after dinner. You will simply fall in the eyes of a person, and lose the most important part of a good relationship between people - trust, which is much more difficult to earn again than to acquire when meeting.

Everyone loves to hear the truth, but not everyone is happy to tell it. Perhaps lying is sometimes necessary, but only in exceptional cases. Be sure to remember that to lie is to commit a negative act, which is certainly not worthy of praise. Of course, the truth is bitter and not pleasant. Having told the truth, you don’t know how you will be treated after it, rejected or accepted with open arms, so doing this is much more difficult than just inventing a story that is beneficial for yourself. But if the lie is revealed, it will be much worse, and having told the truth, you can breathe easy, forgetting about everything that happened, so we can say with confidence that the bitter truth is better than the sweet lie.

Option 2

Which is better: sweet lies or bitter truth? Philosophical - psychological question that torments the younger generation. To try to answer this question, let's look at a few illustrative examples.

When we first hear this question, of course we want to answer: "the bitter truth is better than the sweet lie." This is what our parents taught us, as the proverb says. But is it really so? Consider a situation in which a lie is likely to be more appropriate than the truth. Suppose a young girl dreams of a child. She is undergoing examinations and full of hope awaits the results. The doctor who received the results sees that this woman is infertile and the chance of getting pregnant tends to zero. The doctor is faced with a choice: tell the truth or lie. The doctor chooses not to ruin the hopes of a young girl. Is this the right decision? I think so in this situation. Now the girl will not give up, she will not stop hoping and believing, she will undergo various courses of treatment. All thoughts are material and it is possible, when - whether she will be able to give birth. What would happen if the doctor told the truth? The girl would have lost the meaning of life, would have fallen into depression, her health, both physical and mental, would have deteriorated, and this clearly would not have led to anything good.

Or consider another example. Let's say that an old grandfather was hospitalized with a heart attack. On the same day, his son had an accident and died. Should you tell your father about your son's death? Of course yes. But not in this moment. Now it is better to come up with an urgent business trip or urgent business. And when the father gets better, you can say about the death of his son. Otherwise, the already weakened heart of an old grandfather may not be able to withstand it.

It is necessary to tell the truth when you are sure that it will not bring harm. For example, if your closest friend did something bad. Don't you tell him the truth, no matter how bitter it is? In this case, if you lie sweetly, then you are doing your friend a disservice. Speak the truth, even if the truth hurts a person's pride.

Tell the truth or lie only your own choice. This choice depends on the situation, on the person who is listening to you. Perhaps this person is very receptive and honesty can lead to irreversible consequences.

Which is better: the bitter truth or the sweet lie? It is impossible to answer this question by choosing any one of the positions. Everyone decides for himself what to say and to whom.

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1) Introduction………………………………………………………………….3

2) Chapter 1. Philosophical view………………………………………..4

Item 1. The “hard” truth…………………………………………..4

Point 2. Pleasant delusion………………………………………..7

Item 3. Separation of Lies……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………9

Item 4. Harm of the truth…………………………………………………...10

Item 5. Golden mean……………………………………………...11

3) Chapter 2. Modern view………………………………………..13

Item 6. Is it worth it to lie? .............................................. ..........................thirteen

Item 7. Survey………………………………………………………..14

Item 8. Modern opinions………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………

4) Conclusion………………………………………………………………17

5) List of used literature…………………………………..18

Introduction.

I think that every person at least once in his life faced a choice: to reveal the true state of affairs or to embellish the situation, if appropriate. This is a difficult choice, many even suffer because they have to choose. There are people - born liars; there are those who hate lies and prefer the truth; and there are people for whom there are certain situations where lying is considered appropriate and necessary.

So what is better: a pleasant delusion or a “bitter” truth, sometimes even a sad one? I want to consider this issue as accurately as possible and go as far as possible into the essence of the problem, find out what people prefer in our time to a greater extent and whether their preferences converge with their actions, as well as draw certain conclusions for myself.

Chapter 1. Philosophical view.

"Children and fools always tell the truth," reads
old wisdom. The conclusion is clear: adults and
wise people never tell the truth."
Mark Twain

Quite a lot of events happen in our life: joy, sadness, luck, love, etc. All good events always alternate with less joyful events. They cannot even be called bad, and rather they are not even events, but certain obstacles that a person has to face. If you think about it, you can notice one very important detail - no matter what, people always demand a "bitter" truth, reliable information, and not a "sweet" lie. We often believe in a fairy tale, we live behind these rose-colored glasses, and the reality is much more false and meaner. Hiding behind dreams, we do not notice a simple needle in this beautiful world, which, oddly enough, can “prick” us painfully.

Point 1. "Heavy" truth.

The most common misconception concerns human feelings and relationships. I recall the work “Woe from Wit” by A.S. Griboedova and one of the main characters of Sophia, who, having fallen in love with Molchanin, accepts his romantic impulse as a gift of fate that will help her become happy . However, all her hopes and dreams are shattered at one moment, when she sees the scene of the declaration of love between Molchanin and the maid, she realizes how erroneous her opinion about her beloved was before.

Disappointment is the eternal companion of delusion. And the later the true picture opens, the more difficult it is to accept and survive, and most importantly, to change something in your life for the better. For example, in Germany, doctors tell their patients the whole truth, telling cancer patients about the severity of their condition, and it seems to me that they only at beat in them the desire to resist and fight for their lives. Of course, miracles rarely happen, and maybe they don’t happen at all, but you can’t take hope away from a person.

German scientists tried to figure this out, they interviewed a number of people and asked them just one question, what would they like "a bitter truth or a sweet lie." Here's what we found out from this survey: After examining the patient, the doctor discovered a malignant tumor. And what to do next? Lie to the patient, calling stomach cancer an ulcer, lung cancer - bronchitis, and thyroid cancer - an endemic goiter, or tell him about a terrible diagnosis? It turns out that most patients prefer the second option. A sociological survey conducted among patients oncology departments of various hospitals in the UK showed that 90 percent of them need truthful information. Moreover, 62% of patients would like not only to know the diagnosis, but also to hear from the doctor a description of the disease and a probable prognosis for its course, and 70% decided to inform their families about the disease. An important role in determining preferences is played by the age of the patient - for example, among patients over 80 years old, 13% prefer to remain in the dark, and among their younger "brothers" in misfortune - 6%. All this suggests that most people prefer the truth, no matter how bitter it is, and no matter what problems it brings in the future.

In love, for example, we often overestimate our chosen one, the sincerity of his intentions: perhaps his words are at odds with his actions. " 40% of women, when meeting men, downplay their age"- the series" Lie Theory. " They lie first of all to those they love- Nadine de Rothschild. From this we can conclude that when we are mistaken in some significant issue for us, we sink into the world of illusions, creating a fairy tale that not only we like, but many other people as well.

On the one hand, “sweet” lies, or as it is also called “white lies,” are quite appropriate. But do you want to lie to your loved ones? After all, this lie can lead not to a positive outcome, but to pain and disappointment.

I don't like being lied to my face
Trying to keep me out of pain!
I don't like being told the wrong thing;
That at first they wanted to say so!
I hate pity eyes
that pierce my soul!
I hate, I hate
When they say one thing, and I hear another!
I do not accept sweet speeches,
Which are so flattering and false!
I hate the world where you are nobody
Where everyone is afraid of the truth, everyone is cowardly!
I don't want deceit and lies
I do not want pity and flattery!
I hope I deserve the truth
And the only truth I dream of.
Let it be bitter like a straight arrow
Not the kind that's so nice to hear
Let it hurt me sometimes
Let the heart only hear the truth! 1

It seems to me that this poem shows us very well that a person not only does not want to hear a lie, he also hates it. In his work, the author speaks of truth as something sacred that must be earned.

« When in doubt, tell the truth" - Mark Twain. This

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the quote is true, because having lied, it is you who have to unravel all the threads that you have twisted. A pleasant delusion can only help at first, but then it will be much worse.

And as they say in the feature film "Brother-2": "- Tell me, American, what is the strength? Here the brother says that strength is in money. You threw someone, became richer, so what? I believe the strength is in the TRUTH, whoever is right is stronger ».

Point 2. Pleasant delusion.

In contrast, I want to quote, unfortunately, I don’t remember the correct presentation, so I’ll change it in my own way: “ If you want to harm a person, then it is not necessary to slander and gossip, it is enough to tell the truth about him". People really always want the truth, try to find it. Although they themselves only do what they hide, conceal, keep silent. How often do you tell the truth to your superiors? How often do you tell the truth about what you really think about your friends and acquaintances? Have you ever told the whole truth about yourself? Without concealing anything, to your parents, for example? Or the same friends?

I think the answer will be negative, the truth is too "bitter". " Unpleasant truth, inevitable death, and women's mustaches are three things we don't want to notice." Lie Theory series. We lie at work to colleagues, talk about the happy life of our family. We lie to relatives without talking about problems at work. We also tell time to friends so that they do not think that in some situation we feel weak and helpless. The worst thing about all this is that any, even a small lie, is subsequently revealed.

And how can your relatives, friends, colleagues trust you after that? If you are constantly not talking. " We like people who dare to tell us what they think, as long as they think the same way we do." - Mark Twain. 2 All this leads to the loss of loved ones, friends, because now they

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They think that you do not trust them, since you always kept something with you.

And the worst thing is that your harmless lie can turn into a "big one" that borders on betrayal. So maybe you should train yourself to tell the truth?

As an example, I would like to cite an old parable about truth:

Man, no matter what,
I set out to find the truth.
Put a lot of effort into it
It was not easy for him on the way:
Wandered the untrodden road
And in the cold, and in the rain, and in the summer heat,
About the stones in the blood wounded his legs,
He lost weight and became like a gray harrier.
But he achieved his cherished goal -
After long wanderings and losses
He is in the hut of Truth, in fact

He opened the unlocked door.

There was an old woman sitting there.
It was evident that guests were not expected.
The man asked, gathering his courage:
- Isn't your name Truth?
"It's me," the hostess replied.
And the Seeker then exclaimed:
Humanity has always believed
That you are beautiful and young.
If I reveal the truth to people,
Will they become happier?
Smiling at our hero
Truth whispered: "Deceive."

Item 3. Separation of lies.

« The average person lies three times in a ten minute conversation". This is a quote from the series Lie Theory. A person is so arranged that he cannot help but lie, a lie is a part of our life. Even when they ask us - "How are you?", we answer - "everything is fine" or "normal", despite what state we really have, simply justifying this by the fact that we do not want to share problems with those around us is not enough acquaintances, people. Agree, because this is a small, but still a lie. Answering this almost every day, we get used to the lie and in order to somehow justify it, we begin to divide the lie: into positive and negative.

Lies are good or bad
Compassionate or merciless,
Lies are clever and clumsy,
Cautious and reckless
Delightful and joyless
Too complex and too simple.
Lies are sinful and holy,
She is modest and elegant,
Outstanding and ordinary
frank, impartial,
And it's just a hassle.
Lies are scary and funny
Now omnipotent, now completely powerless,
Now humiliated, then wayward,
fleeting or lingering.
Lies are wild and tame
Everyday life can also be a front door,
Inspirational, boring and different...
The truth is only the truth...

The fact that we begin to share lies, can be explained as a defense? Or is it still an excuse? How can our “normal” harm people? Nothing, however, gradually, we will begin to deceive not only others , but also themselves.

When we have a lot of problems, we sit and console ourselves that “everything is fine”, “everything is fine” and do not take any action to solve the difficulties.

But not everyone is like that, there are people who are like an open book, they always say what they feel, talk about their plans for the future. A lot of people have to work hard not to give out the whole truth.

Unfortunately, in our time, people who tell the truth are not valued. As evidence, we can take the words of Robert Greene: Reckless openness leads to the fact that you become so predictable, so understandable that it is almost impossible to respect or fear you, and power does not submit to a person who is not able to evoke such feelings. ».

Item 4. Harm of the truth.

Honesty can cause incalculable harm, both mentally and physically. For the truth, they can harm your relatives, close people or kill you yourself. The knowledge of the truth and the likelihood of its spread pushes many people to terrible deeds or drives them to the grave.

It may be better to adapt and tell people what they want to hear rather than what you really think or feel . After all, the truth can bring disappointment and pain not only to the people you tell it to, but also to yourself. As proof, we can recall a quote from the work "The Tale of Fedot the Archer, a daring young man":

“Is it good, is it bad news, -
Report everything to me!
Better bitter but true
What a pleasant, but flattery!
Only if the ent is news
It will be again - not God knows,
You are for such truth
You can sit down for ten years! - (Tsar - to the General) 3

Life is an incredibly complicated thing and, unfortunately, lying is often the only way out. Although if we take into account the quote by M. Bulgakov: " The tongue can hide the truth, but the eyes can't", then it turns out that we can recognize when they lie to us, and when they tell the truth? However, it seems to me that this is not so. After all, if this were possible, humanity would not have existed for so long.

We cannot determine whether a person is lying to us or not. But because of the desire to know the truth, a person is looking for various ways to detect lies, one such example is a lie detector. However, people who have experience passing it say that a well-trained person or a person who knows how to control his emotions can easily deceive the detector. The phrase from the series "Theory of Lies" fits very well here: " No crisis in the business of lies". Since people always lie, regardless of the object of the lie, whether it be a person or a machine, which, as it seems at first glance, has been taught to separate truth from lies .

Item 5. Golden mean.

There is always a middle ground. There are situations when it is necessary to lie. And it seems that this is the most correct way. But one must understand that one should speak the truth or lie in moderation, taking into account all the circumstances. Because " Often the question is not whether someone is lying, the question is whether

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why"- the series" Lie Theory. For example, the Indians said:

“With a friend, with a wife, with an old father
don't share your whole truth.
Without resorting to deceit and lies,
tell everyone what is appropriate.”

Agree, there is no such person on earth who would never lie. Lies have taken root in our society. " No one can only tell the truth - it's subjective; we value all points of view of personal experience - that's the truth"- the series" Lie Theory. Sometimes we don't even notice that On the other hand, if everyone always told the truth, there would be neither love nor peace. Nothing can be done about lying, but it seems to me that it is worth resorting to it only in the most extreme cases. Use white lies.

Chapter 2. Modern view.

As mentioned earlier, lies are firmly established in our lives. We lie every day, sometimes on purpose, and sometimes without even realizing it, because it is a common habit.

All people, absolutely everyone, want to know the truth and say that they would rather hear only it. But ask yourself - how often do you yourself tell the truth? Do you deserve to know the very truth you want? First, do not forget that everything secret becomes clear; secondly, even the most, in my opinion, terrible news can be presented in different ways. You can escalate the situation, panic, speak with pessimism, or you can simply calm down, say that the problem is solvable, and that together you can find ways to solve it.

Item 6. Should I lie?

As I have often observed, trust, love and friendship crack because of seemingly harmless lies. I met a friend on the street, sat and chatted in a cafe, naturally told the young man that she went shopping with a friend. Well, who knew that this very friend called him at that moment and was looking for me? Or, for example, this situation: he told his wife that he was doing a report at work, and he himself was at the birthday party of a very nice employee. Lied to my wife because she doesn't like it when you go or stay at these events. And when she met you at the door, drunk, and you smelled like women's perfume three kilometers away, believe me, she has already drawn such pictures for herself that it will be extremely difficult to convince her otherwise. And then prove that nothing happened, and that you are faithful.

Now, after all, even the truth you said will be perceived as a lie. After all, we do not believe people who have lied to us before, even when they tell the truth. Suffice it to recall the parable about the boy and the wolf, in which the boy lied about the wolf attacking the sheep, but when this actually happened, no one believed him.

And this is true, because no relationship will be strong if lies prevail in them. Therefore, it is worth thinking before telling a lie, even the most harmless one.

Item 7. Poll.

I did a survey among my friends. The question was in the following way: "What do you prefer more: "bitter" truth or "sweet" lies? More than 100 people took part. The results were quite expected, given what I discussed at the beginning of the second paragraph.

"Bitter truth - 91.43%

"Sweet lie - 8.57%

We can see that the vast majority prefer the truth. But I am more than sure that each of them lied at certain moments of their lives and every day they also lie, for example, to teachers, or when it was necessary, for example, to avoid punishment from their mother. True, during the discussion, some difficulties arose. Here are the words of two of my friends out of more than 100 respondents.

Anna Kozlova - " Hmm, I sit and think for five minutes ... On the one hand, the truth, because I still recognize it anyway .... but on the other, it sometimes happens that it’s better not to know it at all.<…>In any case, no one will answer you the truth now, by the way, because it all depends on what the truth is, how bitter it is. It’s just that what I thought about - yes, it’s definitely a lie, although the realization that I (the lion, by the way, according to the zodiac) is screwed up just makes me sick, but someday all the lies have always been revealed and it’s doubly painful here - because more and realize that you have been deceived. . <…> Just until it's revealed. Personal experience shows that the probability of disclosure is 99%. I lie quite convincingly, but everything secret becomes clear, even in a year, in 2, even in 10 years, but it will become the same ! »

Alexey Yusipov - " Everyone wants to hear the bitter truth, and then they are still outraged by what they heard. In our world, the "bitter" truth is superfluous information that does not need to be said, but for someone to hear it. . Well, lies can be good.<…> Sometimes the truth puts other people at risk. For example, some superhero will reveal his identity to a lady in love, and then she will be under threat. The most striking example. In life, there are so many ».

So, the bitter truth. So I wanted to write to them that if you want to make more enemies for yourself, then always, to everyone, under any circumstances, tell the truth. Imagine walking down the street and seeing a fat man. Go up to him right away and tell the truth that you don't like him appearance, then, in intensive care, you will have something to think about.

In general, it is even better to start fighting for the truth. Great idea. Let's see what will happen to you after the start of all this action. And, in the end, you will ask yourself the question: “Do I need it?”. " The truth is the most valuable thing we have; Let's use it carefully" - Mark Twain.

Item 8. Modern opinions.

So, what is better: the “bitter” truth or the “sweet” lie? Maxim Gorky in the play "At the Bottom" tried to figure this out through the mouths of his heroes. Speaking as Satin, he says: “Lies are the religion of slaves and masters. Truth is the God of a free man. Is the so-called white lie necessary? Here are the responses we are hearing now:

«« Bitter truth is a person's right to suffer, sweet lies are our duty to give him the opportunity to avoid it. »

« Lies are sweet, because they support the illusion, like a drug, the illusion of wholeness and happiness. »

« Secret, ALWAYS become clear. Probably, a lie is needed in critical situations, for example, when the life of another person is threatened. Or at home. What is better: to say: yes, I have a lover, and ruin the family? Or deny it and save the family? And there are an infinite number of such ambiguous situations of choice ... » .

I think it is necessary to lie in very small quantities or not to lie at all. Sooner or later, fate will make you pay for this lie, even for salvation . Based on my experience, I can only say that it is better to tell the truth.

Conclusion.

I considered the statement "better a 'bitter' truth than a 'sweet' lie". The conclusion is that people in our time prefer the truth, whatever it may be, but very often they themselves do not finish speaking. Lies are already part of us and we will not get away from it.

Tell the truth or hide something? There is no answer to this question, everyone has their own criteria and their own framework, as well as their own understanding of this statement. And yet, the majority choose the golden mean and believe in "white lies."

I KNOW AND BELIEVE
We are shaken from edge to edge.
Along the edges are doors.
The last one says "I know"
And on the first it is written - "I believe".
And having one head,
You will never enter both doors -
If you believe, then you believe without knowing
If you know, then you know without believing.

And forming my consciousness,
Every day since birth
We are walking on the path of knowledge
And with knowledge comes doubt.
And the mystery will remain eternal -
Scientists foreheads will not help:
If we know, we are negligibly weak.
If we believe, we are infinitely strong. 4

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1. Balyazin V. - “The wisdom of millennia. Encyclopedia" - M.: OLMA-Press, 2005

2. Gorky M. - “At the bottom. Summer Residents "- M .:" Children's Literature "- 2010

3. Griboyedov A.S. - "Woe from Wit" - M .: "Pravda" - 1996

4. Robert Green - "48 laws of power"

5. Panchatantra. Table book of Indian princes.

6. Paul Ekman - "The Psychology of Lies" - W. W. Norton & Company - 2003

7. The series "Theory of Lies" - 1, 2, 3 seasons

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Introduction……………………………………………………………….3

Chapter 1. Philosophical view………………………………………..4

Item 1. The “hard” truth…………………………………………..4

Point 2. Pleasant delusion………………………………………..7

Item 4. Harm of the truth…………………………………………………...10

Item 5. Golden mean……………………………………………...11

Chapter 2. Modern view………………………………………..13

Item 6. Is it worth it to lie? .............................................. ..........................thirteen

Item 7. Survey………………………………………………………..14

Conclusion……………………………………………………………17

List of used literature…………………………………..18

Introduction.

Chapter 1. Philosophical view.

"Children and fools always tell the truth," reads
old wisdom. The conclusion is clear: adults and
wise people never tell the truth."
Mark Twain

Point 1. "Heavy" truth.

It seems to me that this poem shows us very well that a person not only does not want to hear a lie, he also hates it. In his work, the author speaks of truth as something sacred that must be earned.

« When in doubt, tell the truth" - Mark Twain. This

the quote is true, because having lied, it is you who have to unravel all the threads that you have twisted. A pleasant delusion can only help at first, but then it will be much worse.

Point 2. Pleasant delusion.

I think the answer will be negative, the truth is too "bitter". " Unpleasant truth, inevitable death, and women's mustaches are three things we don't want to notice." series "Lie theory". We lie at work to colleagues, talk about the happy life of our family. We lie to relatives without talking about problems at work. We also tell time to friends so that they do not think that in some situation we feel weak and helpless. The worst thing about all this is that any, even a small lie, is subsequently revealed.

They think that you do not trust them, since you always kept something with you.

And the worst thing is that your harmless lie can turn into a "big one" that borders on betrayal. So maybe you should train yourself to tell the truth?

As an example, I would like to cite an old parable about truth:

He opened the unlocked door.

Item 3. Separation of lies.

When we have a lot of problems, we sit and console ourselves that “everything is fine”, “everything is fine” and do not take any action to solve the difficulties.

Item 4. Harm of the truth.

It may be better to adapt and tell people what they want to hear rather than what you make up or feel. . After all, the truth can bring disappointment and pain not only to the people you tell it to, but also to yourself. As proof, we can recall a quote from the work "The Tale of Fedot the Archer, a daring young man":

Item 5. Golden mean.

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why"- the series" Lie Theory. For example, the Indians said:

“With a friend, with a wife, with an old father
don't share your whole truth.
Without resorting to deceit and lies,
tell everyone what is appropriate.”

Source - Panchatantra. Table book of Indian princes.

Chapter 2. Modern view.

As mentioned earlier, lies are firmly established in our lives. We lie every day, sometimes on purpose, and sometimes without even realizing it, because it is a common habit.

Item 6. Should I lie?

As I have often observed, trust, love and friendship crack because of seemingly harmless lies. I met a friend on the street, sat and chatted in a cafe, naturally told the young man that she went shopping with a friend. Well, who knew that this very friend called him at that moment and was looking for me? Or, for example, this situation: he told his wife that he was doing a report at work, and he himself was on the birth of a very nice employee. Lied to my wife because she doesn't like it when you go or stay at these events. And when she met you at the door, drunk, and you smelled like women's perfume three kilometers away, believe me, she has already drawn such pictures for herself that it will be extremely difficult to convince her otherwise. And then prove that nothing happened, and that you are faithful.

And this is true, because no relationship will be strong if lies prevail in them. Therefore, it is worth thinking before telling a lie, even the most harmless one.

Item 7. Poll.

I did a survey among my friends. The question was as follows: “Which do you prefer more: the “bitter” truth or the “sweet” lie?”. More than 100 people took part. The results were quite expected, given what I discussed at the beginning of the second paragraph.

"Bitter truth - 91.43%

"Sweet lie - 8.57%

Anna Kozlova - " Hmm, I sit and think for five minutes ... On the one hand, the truth, because I still recognize it anyway .... but on the other, it sometimes happens that it’s better not to know it at all.<…>In any case, no one will answer you the truth now, by the way, because it all depends on what the truth is, how bitter it is. It’s just that what I thought about - yes, it’s definitely a lie, although the realization that I (the lion, by the way, according to the zodiac) is screwed up just makes me sick, but someday all the lies have always been revealed and it’s doubly painful here - because more and realize that you have been deceived.. <…> Just until it's revealed. Personal experience shows that the probability of disclosure is 99%. I lie quite convincingly, but everything secret becomes clear, even in a year, in 2, even in 10 years, but it will become the same!»

Alexey Yusipov - " Everyone wants to hear the bitter truth, and then they are still outraged by what they heard. In our world, the "bitter" truth is superfluous information that does not need to be said, but for someone to hear it.. Well, lies can be good.<…> Sometimes the truth puts other people at risk. For example, some superhero will reveal his identity to a lady in love, and then she will be under threat. The most striking example. In life, there are so many».

So, the bitter truth. So I wanted to write to them that if you want to make more enemies for yourself, then always, to everyone, under any circumstances, tell the truth. Imagine walking down the street and seeing a fat man. Just go up to him right away and tell the truth that you don’t like his appearance, then, in intensive care, you will have something to think about.

Item 8. Modern opinions.

«« Bitter truth is a person's right to suffer, sweet lies are our duty to give him the opportunity to avoid it. »

« Lies are sweet, because they support the illusion, like a drug, the illusion of wholeness and happiness. »

« Secret, ALWAYS become clear. Probably, a lie is needed in critical situations, for example, when the life of another person is threatened. Or at home. What is better: to say: yes, I have a lover, and ruin the family? Or deny it and save the family? And there are an infinite number of such ambiguous situations of choice ... » .

Conclusion.

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So what is still better: the bitter truth or the sweet lie?

But what about lies?

Option 2

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